TRIGGER WARNING: Podcast contains information about the Gabby Petito disappearance and homicide, including domestic abuse, narcissistic reactive abuse, etc. 

In this podcast, I talk about why the Gabby Petito case (which at the time of writing is ongoing) is important, and ask:

• Why are people talking about this so much?
• What can we learn?
• What can we do better?
• How can we honour her memory?

What are your thoughts? Let me know in the comments. 

Are You In Heaven Or Hell?

In 2017, I took four months to travel in contemplation of the idea that Heaven and Hell may be places we occupy while alive, and to find the missing pieces of my understanding of the energies of the Divine Masculine and the Divine Feminine. 

I cannot explain fully why this was so important to me, and I didn't travel anywhere particularly spectacular to do this work. I stayed in hotels, motels, and apartments. I didn't plan the physical journey. I went where I felt I was called to go. 

This took me to churches and henges. It took me to streets full of homeless people, whom I fed. It took me to the middle of the countryside, and the middle of cities. It took me to a spiritual healing church where people laid hands on me.

It was a pretty eccentric journey, full of random coincidences, and endless butterflies. I was surrounded by butterflies constantly. They landed on my car when I parked. Rare butterflies like Painted Ladies and Red Admirals crossed...

Your Circle Of Friends

• The friends in your life are shaping the future of your life.
• Loyalty has an expiration date. If you're a good person, you may stay loyal to people whose loyalty to you is already expired. Don't forgive longer than you should. Even The Bible puts a limit on it. When asked whether a person should forgive someone as many as seven times, Jesus said: “I say not … seven times: but, Until seventy times seven” (Matthew 18:22, KJV). You could read that as a limitless amount, but having survived narcissistic abuse where I forgave many more times than that... I'm pretty sure Jesus is giving us an out. Once someone has shown their true colours enough times, let go and let God. 

God's Got You

• Don't get caught up with the process. Everything you're going through is preparing you for what you asked God for. You may not see that now, but on the other side of it you'll see it and be OK with it. He's going to fix it. If God was through with you, you...

12 Steps To Recovery

Do you struggle with addictions and attachments? Are you dependent on things outside yourself for your sanity? If so, you may need to consider recovery from that before it becomes more entrenched. 

12 Step programs, such as Alcoholics Anonymous, can help support you with this. In this video, Russell Brand shares the first two steps. 

As someone who struggled with drug addiction for 7 years in early adulthood, and is now 22 years clean, I didn't really know about these programs at the time and tried to do everything on my own. It worked, but I put myself in a fair amount of danger by doing it that way (I went cold turkey off benzodiazepines. A VERY bad idea). It would have made way more sense to use a 12 step program.

There is no shame in being honest with yourself if any dependency or addiction has reached the point where it is harming your life or future health. 

Time To Be Honest

Do you struggle with addictions and attachments? Here are...

Positive Vibes Only!

We've all seen Positive Vibes Only people. In some cases, it's that they've been through so much that they just cannot handle anything but positive vibes. If that's you, I'm sorry you've been through that. If you've done the work, and integrated your shadow self, do what works for you. 

Some people have lived as their shadow selves (a term Jung termed for the darker side of the personality) through addiction or aggression, and have so thoroughly explored it that they are ready to live fully in the brightest aspects of themselves. That is a hard path, and one few can walk. But, again, if you've done the work to integrate the parts of yourself, and you've got therapy to work through the deep trauma, have at it.

For everyone else, the work of integrating the shadow self is vital. No, you are not just the fluffy bunny. You are also the wolf/cougar/tiger. You are not just the bright and shiny light. You are also the shadow that is cast when that light shines...

Meaningwave

Over the next few months, I will share 'meaningwave' type music with you, and break down the meanings in these songs.

That means these blog posts will be article length, not the snappy little soundbite info that you scroll through daily.

For that reason, only people commited to growth will read and digest them.

Those with absolute focus on the highest levels of success will take notes.

The rest might just listen to the music. All good. But challenge yourself to be present for longer form content. Your brain is being destroyed by fast content.

Stop.

Spend time with me here.

Listen to the music.

Read the posts.

Be here, now.

This is a chill academy, but it IS an academy. You're here to learn. Stay long enough to do so. 

If you share this on Twitter, tag me so I can put you into draws for special offers I reserve for those that support Indiepreneur.Academy

What is Meaningwave?

It's something that Akira The Don began in 2017 that combines music and personal/spiritual...

Money Twitter Definition

Money Twitter is a corner of Twitter where indiepreneurs (solo entrepreneurs, and others with an independent, entrepreneurial mindset) meet and trade. 

People often ask what Money Twitter is, so bookmark this or throw the link into your notes so you don't spend your whole life explaining it. 

Culture

As with anywhere online, that's largely shaped by who you follow. However, there is a dominant culture on Money Twitter and it's male focused. That may be an understatement. Few of the large accounts there are run by women, and the atmosphere is frequently pretty intimidating or even unsafe for women. I've received everything from threats for suggesting women are sexual beings who actually enjoy sex (we are and we do) to d*** pics. I'm leading with the bad stuff, because there is SO much good stuff, but if being treated with respect as a woman or as any person who doesn't live in a gym is a non-negotiable for you, this isn't going to be your...

Today is St George's Day in England. The legend of St George is fascinating, not least because George is presented as the epitome of Englishness, but wasn't actually English. 

However, I'd like to focus on the idea of dragons for this post. Not cute dragons like in Shrek, but scary dragons. The dragons of the dark cave you fear to enter, inside yourself. 

Heavy stuff? Maybe. But it's a journey worth taking, because dragons protect treasure. So the dragons inside are wrapped around your greatest treasure of all, and it's time to take it back. 

What Are You Hiding?

What is hidden at the core of your being that could help not only you but also others if you'd just let it see the light of day?

The dragon of rage wakes up when you try to look at what it protects. Why? What's so precious?

Often, it's vulnerability. It's our inner bunny or fawn. It's our frailty or imperfection. It's the times we failed to do our best. It's humiliation. It's the secret suspicion that we...

The alarm goes off.

You reach for your phone. 

You switch off the alarm.

Best check twitter, or IG or FB or webtalk...

You see something trending, or a viral thread.

IT'S URGENT!

You get pulled into a hall of mirrors, showing you every possible reading of the news event or disagreement about marketing, or whatever it is. 

You look at the time. 2 hours have passed. 

Was it really urgent? Was it important?

Urgent!

Something's urgent if it's time sensitive and significant. A news event that affects you directly is urgent. For instance, if your area goes into lockdown due to COVID-19, that's urgent. It's also important. 

A sale could also be urgent, but it isn't necessarily important. It only becomes both urgent AND important if you already know the thing or service is of value to you, and you're being offered a deal you can't refuse. 

Important

Things are important if they're substantially significant to your purpose or life. Time with your family is important....

We're All In The Same Boat

While it's true that the quality of the cabins on the boat differ, with some running out of food and some containing abusers, for instance, we are all in the same boat. It's currently sinking, and it requires the work of all of us to make it sea-worthy again. No matter how swanky the most majestic cabin, if The Titanic hits the bottom of the ocean, the extra gilding does nothing to save the occupants. 

Pretty grim. Also, kinda enlightening. COVID-19 has taught us how interconnected we all are, and how dependent we all are on each other for survival. The biggest heroes and heroines of the moment are not the yacht owners, but the nurses and the shelf stackers. The people we most rely upon to keep this ship afloat right now are the delivery drivers, the people who collect our rubbish, and the people who pick and pack vegetables. And the ones who most protect those vital workers are those of us who social distance, and stay home for all but urgent...