Money Motivation Makes You Poor. PURPOSE Makes You Rich. Here's The Science...

First, watch this video...

Weird right? But doesn't it make sense when you think of people who make a lot of money and then fall apart? Unless the financial reward is linked to the person's purpose, the carrot is just not exciting to the bunny. Makes sense. If you're a task rabbit, and you need the carrots worse than bad, that IS your purpose, so you do whatever it takes to get the carrots. If you're a bunny with lots of carrots though... what's so interesting about carrots?

I've helped multiple millionaires and multi-millionaires to find meaning. This is why my elevator pitch for coaching has been:

"I help solo entrepreneurs and creatives to master their mindset, make more money, and live with greater meaning" for about 4 years now. 

Here are the main takeaways from the above video:

Autonomy

Our ability to control our own lives matters to us. We're not robots. We're human. We're here to evolve the species. We're here to act from our highest purpose.

Mastery 

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What if the People You Love Don't See Your Vision?

Why Naysayers Suck More Than Haters

Whenever you try to level up in life, you get naysayers and haters. It's completely inevitable. In fact, I have a little saying I trot out from time to time:

Haters are the litmus test of awesome

It's true. So are naysayers. The moment that you start to state what you actually feel, people get uppity. The reason for this depends on whether they are haters or naysayers. Typically, haters are people who don't know you well or who see you as a competitor to be crushed. Naysayers are people you love, who won't jump on board with your vision. 

Haters are the litmus test of awesome because most of them are hating on you to get the attention on them. They jump up and down when they see you succeed because they're jealous. Technically, they're actually envious, but it feels like jealousy.

The way jealousy is different from envy is that envy is about wanting something someone else has, whereas jealousy is about being scared someone will take, or is...

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Treat People With Humanity... Even The 'Jerks'

You have your dream.

You draft out your strategy.

You get some tactics.

You blend some green stuff

Hashtag 'blessed'

And then you see the trending topics.

And all the motivational quotes fall letter by letter from your screen.

Hashtag 'thoughtsandprayers'
Hashtag 'guncontrol'
Hashtag 'terrorism'
Hashtag 'whatisthepoint'

What's the point of following your dreams in the middle of a world full of waking nightmares?

What's the point of posting cute pics of your cat, or motivational quotes that tell people their happiness is an inside job.... when outside events can destroy so much of what you love?

That IS the point.

You get to create.

You get to bring life to the world...

And hope...

And joy...

Because of you, someone hasn't given up.

Because of you, someone calmed down and didn't shout at their spouse.

Because of you, someone didn't scream at their kid.

Because of you, that kid felt safe enough to express himself.

Because of you, his mother heard the words that showed something was...

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If You Wait Until You're Ready, You'll Never Grow

Growing involves, well, growing. Seems obvious, right? For many people, though, it is not. They believe they can stay comfortable and move forward when they 'are ready'. The thing is that you're never ready to grow because the stage you're at and the stage you seek are different stages. To move to the next stage requires growing into something you've never been before, which means starting the process of growing while it's uncomfortable and feels weird.

Want to Stay Back a Year... Again?

Think about it. When you were a kid, did your teacher wait until you felt comfortable to move to the next year before you moved up? No. The time came, and you moved up whether you were ready or not. As an adult, how many years have you spent in the grade you're currently in? Ouch! If you have kids, how does it feel to know that your kids are consistently making progress out of their comfort zones, while you are not? 

What's Hidden Inside Your Little Version of Self?

Think of an apple seed. It...

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How to Find Your Voice

 

Whether you want to be a novelist, blogger, copywriter, or just post kickass social media content, you need a voice. 

What Is A Voice?

Your voice is what differentiates you from every other person on the interwebs. It's the fact that you say 'interwebs'... or 'net'... or 'Internet'. It's the fact that you asterisk rude words, or don't. It's the formality or otherwise of your style. It's the way you use grammar to make a point. It's whether you obey the rules of grammar or: Make. Your. Own. Rules.  

Everything Has Already Been Said

Given that every story has already been told, multiple times, and the news in your industry has already been around the world a thousand times before you even hear it, you may feel frustrated by the idea that there's nothing left to say. Nothing new. But, there always is. A story may have been told a million times, but you haven't told it. Your voice is unique. Once you have your voice sorted, you can bring fresh air to any topic.

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How to Get Stick-to-it-iveness

Nine-tenths of the formula for success is persistence. The ability to stick things out.

Stick-to-it-iveness. 

Whatever skills you learn, and whatever qualifications you amass, you're lost without this. It is a fundamental principle to success in business or any creative endeavour. 

You may have been taught that slapping a grin on your face and thinking positive will win the day for you. It won't. Not alone. The flip side to that coin is honouring the struggle and joyfully rising again after you fall. 

It's Not About How Often You Fall, But How Often You Rise

You will fall. You will fail. Not just once. Often. The path towards your dreams is paved with grazed knees. The key is not to avoid falling. The key is to rise again each time you fall. That is progress. That is falling forward. Here's a song I wrote about that. 

When Have You Recovered Before?

If you lack confidence, think back to the last time you were able to stand up again when you fell. The...

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The Sky Is Not The Limit. The Sky Is Limitless

  1. Old expressions keep us trapped.
  2. What is the truth? The sky is limitless. How does this affect your dreams?
  3. What limits are you putting on yourself?
  4. How are they serving you?
  5. How can you overcome them, and should you?

 

Old expressions keep us trapped

People say the sky's the limit when they're trying to urge you to go for your dreams. You can take this thing to the sky. There is no limit until then. However, the expression is limited. Since we came up with it, we've travelled to the moon and beyond. 

 

What is the truth? The sky is limitless. How does this affect your dreams?

The truth is that the sky is not the limit, because the sky is limitless. Space goes on forever, and it's expanding. If you were physically able to head towards the sky and just kept going, you'd never stop. 

What does this do to your dreams?

For one thing, it shows you that you don't need to put a cap on your dreams. There is no destination called 'sky' on which you can plant a...

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The Rule Of Thirds: How to Stop People Pleasing

I found some notes from a FB live I watched a year or so ago. The headings that follow were inspired by it, but I have no idea whose broadcast it was, or what the content was aside from the heading ideas, so thank you whomever you are. 

 

A third of the people will love you no matter what you do

There are people who can love unconditionally. I'm one of them. I don't hate anyone, and provided that I can see you're making a genuine effort to improve I can forgive pretty much anyone pretty much anything. I mean... I might not choose to spend any time with you if you've been totally unreasonable, but the chances are that I'll forgive you. 

There are plenty of other people who are able to do the same. There is almost definitely someone in your life who will love you no matter what you do. If there isn't... get a dog. They will. 

In terms of business, a third of your market will love what you do regardless. They may not buy today, but they're opening your emails...

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The Realities of a Narcissist/Empath Relationship

There are two ways to handle life. The first is to compartmentalise everything. Work stays at work. Home stays at home. Logic and professionalism should never be polluted by emotion and creativity. That's our standard format in the Western world. It's also the standard format of patriarchy. It has its place. Work gets done. Things look good on the surface. Connection gets shelved. Suicide rates go up.

There is another way. It's messy. 

Work-Life Smoothie

You create a work-life smoothie. Things are mixed up. They aren't neatly separated into pretty boxes, all the same. Neither are people. And in the process of mixing it up comes the acknowledgement that we are ALL mixed up. Our truth is not shiny and Instagram-ready. We are broken, and it is our brokenness that allows us to re-invent and evolve. If we are fully fixed in place, with fixed mindsets and never changing ideologies, we can never grow. Sometimes, parts of our lives shatter, so that we can rebuild. 

That happened...

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The Secret to Success: Give it a Go. Then Keep Going

Yoda said: "Do or do not, there is no 'try'." I love that quote. I also don't believe it's as helpful as it could be. Yes, for some people, there's a breakthrough moment when they read it. They realise that sitting on the fence is hurting, and they must simply decide, one way or the other. Most people, however, are ruled by fear. For them, the idea of trying is appealing. It's not a major commitment. If it goes wrong, it's no big deal. However, actually committing to DO is terrifying. So, faced with this quote, they choose 'do not'. 

Give it a Go!

Here's my thought. Give it a go. If there's something you like the look of, but you don't know for sure that you'll succeed (spoiler alert: you never know for sure that you'll succeed), just give it a go. Maybe you'll do really well. Maybe not. Only one way to find out. Whatever happens, you'll learn. 

Keep Going!

Most people fail in business, as writers, etc. People throw this information about but they don't look at why...

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