There are no 'self-made' millionaires. There are no 'self-made' anything. We all get support from others. You're reading this thanks to the fact that we were all helped by Tim Berners-Lee when he gave us the web, for instance. However, day to day, you need a support system that cheers you on and gives you hope. Maybe you don't have that. There are times for most of us when we really need a support system but we just don't have one. So, what should you do if you have nobody consistently supporting your dreams and struggles?
The first thing to do is to think of how to build a support system. If your family aren't on board with what you're doing, can you find a way to get them more engaged or is it best to keep business and family separate for you? If the latter, look for meetups in your area where you can spend time with others on the same journey as you. If you're in home or small business, you might want to go to networking events. If you're creative,...
Hiring a coach is a considered investment. It's not cheap, but if you hire a coach in an arena that could earn you money, any coach you hire should pay for themselves many times over if you follow their advice consistently.
If you hire a 'Life Coach' or a 'Romance Coach' or 'Fitness Coach' or whatever, there is the potential for valuable change in your life, and the investment you make when hiring them reflects the value of this change. However, when you hire a Business Coach or someone to help you with creative exploits or influence that you plan to monetise, you get something extra. You get the potential to become more valuable yourself, and to get paid for that value.
If you've hired a coach in the past, diligently followed their advice, worked with them for at least 90 days, and got no results whatever then you hired the wrong coach. Before you berate the coach, though, think for a second...
I'm a little weirdo. That's not an insult. I embrace my weirdness. Do you? I'm a freak. I'm a geek. I'm unique. Are you?
If you haven't heard 'Little Boxes', take a listen below. Then think for a second. What little boxes are you putting yourself into, and what are you typing into the little boxes online so that you look 'just the same' as everyone else?
When the Internet first appeared (and yes, I still use a capital 'I' because I was a Dot Com Pioneer and that's what we did. Deal with it. While we're at it, why do spelling correctors change twitter to Twitter, when it's always had a small 't'? Anyhow... I digress) one of the things we loved about it was the idea that we could now make our own rules.
If you can ever find a Dot Com Pioneer (we're few and far between. Most of us buggered off after the Dot Com Crash, never to return. Some of us still walk among you. Like the dinosaurs of old that hang...
First, watch this video...
Weird right? But doesn't it make sense when you think of people who make a lot of money and then fall apart? Unless the financial reward is linked to the person's purpose, the carrot is just not exciting to the bunny. Makes sense. If you're a task rabbit, and you need the carrots worse than bad, that IS your purpose, so you do whatever it takes to get the carrots. If you're a bunny with lots of carrots though... what's so interesting about carrots?
I've helped multiple millionaires and multi-millionaires to find meaning. This is why my elevator pitch for coaching has been:
"I help solo entrepreneurs and creatives to master their mindset, make more money, and live with greater meaning" for about 4 years now.
Here are the main takeaways from the above video:
Our ability to control our own lives matters to us. We're not robots. We're human. We're here to evolve the species. We're here to act from our highest purpose.
We like to...
Whenever you try to level up in life, you get naysayers and haters. It's completely inevitable. In fact, I have a little saying I trot out from time to time:
Haters are the litmus test of awesome
It's true. So are naysayers. The moment that you start to state what you actually feel, people get uppity. The reason for this depends on whether they are haters or naysayers. Typically, haters are people who don't know you well or who see you as a competitor to be crushed. Naysayers are people you love, who won't jump on board with your vision.
Haters are the litmus test of awesome because most of them are hating on you to get the attention on them. They jump up and down when they see you succeed because they're jealous. Technically, they're actually envious, but it feels like jealousy.
The way jealousy is different from envy is that envy is about wanting something someone else has, whereas jealousy is about being scared someone will take, or is...
You have your dream.
You draft out your strategy.
You get some tactics.
You blend some green stuff
And then you see the trending topics.
And all the motivational quotes fall letter by letter from your screen.
What's the point of following your dreams in the middle of a world full of waking nightmares?
What's the point of posting cute pics of your cat, or motivational quotes that tell people their happiness is an inside job.... when outside events can destroy so much of what you love?
That IS the point.
You get to create.
You get to bring life to the world...
Because of you, someone hasn't given up.
Because of you, someone calmed down and didn't shout at their spouse.
Because of you, someone didn't scream at their kid.
Because of you, that kid felt safe enough to express himself.
Because of you, his mother heard the words that showed something was...
Growing involves, well, growing. Seems obvious, right? For many people, though, it is not. They believe they can stay comfortable and move forward when they 'are ready'. The thing is that you're never ready to grow because the stage you're at and the stage you seek are different stages. To move to the next stage requires growing into something you've never been before, which means starting the process of growing while it's uncomfortable and feels weird.
Think about it. When you were a kid, did your teacher wait until you felt comfortable to move to the next year before you moved up? No. The time came, and you moved up whether you were ready or not. As an adult, how many years have you spent in the grade you're currently in? Ouch! If you have kids, how does it feel to know that your kids are consistently making progress out of their comfort zones, while you are not?
Think of an apple seed. It...
Whether you want to be a novelist, blogger, copywriter, or just post kickass social media content, you need a voice.
Your voice is what differentiates you from every other person on the interwebs. It's the fact that you say 'interwebs'... or 'net'... or 'Internet'. It's the fact that you asterisk rude words, or don't. It's the formality or otherwise of your style. It's the way you use grammar to make a point. It's whether you obey the rules of grammar or: Make. Your. Own. Rules.
Given that every story has already been told, multiple times, and the news in your industry has already been around the world a thousand times before you even hear it, you may feel frustrated by the idea that there's nothing left to say. Nothing new. But, there always is. A story may have been told a million times, but you haven't told it. Your voice is unique. Once you have your voice sorted, you can bring fresh air to any topic.
Nine-tenths of the formula for success is persistence. The ability to stick things out.
Whatever skills you learn, and whatever qualifications you amass, you're lost without this. It is a fundamental principle to success in business or any creative endeavour.
You may have been taught that slapping a grin on your face and thinking positive will win the day for you. It won't. Not alone. The flip side to that coin is honouring the struggle and joyfully rising again after you fall.
You will fall. You will fail. Not just once. Often. The path towards your dreams is paved with grazed knees. The key is not to avoid falling. The key is to rise again each time you fall. That is progress. That is falling forward. Here's a song I wrote about that.
If you lack confidence, think back to the last time you were able to stand up again when you fell. The...
People say the sky's the limit when they're trying to urge you to go for your dreams. You can take this thing to the sky. There is no limit until then. However, the expression is limited. Since we came up with it, we've travelled to the moon and beyond.
The truth is that the sky is not the limit, because the sky is limitless. Space goes on forever, and it's expanding. If you were physically able to head towards the sky and just kept going, you'd never stop.
What does this do to your dreams?
For one thing, it shows you that you don't need to put a cap on your dreams. There is no destination called 'sky' on which you can plant a...
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